Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Room With A View

I can't determine from here if these are wedding dresses or white evening gowns, but will investigate further. It's a lovely display, but not quite the view I'd hoped for. Alas, it's Upfront Week and the hotel is quite full.

On the plus side, my co-workers and I had a lovely dinner last night, and when I unpacked my suitcase, was delighted to discover that underpacking had paid off...my trousers and jackets hadn't wrinkled!

Monday, May 12, 2008

Par avion

Une femme loves to fly. I love almost everything about it (except the lines and the hassle of practically stripping down to skivvies to go through security and then having to scramble to put everything back on and grab possessions off the conveyor and the appalling lack of legroom in coach, even for 5'1" me). I love the smell of jet fuel as you get close to the airport. I love seeing the planes lined up at the gates and love watching them take off and land. I love finding my seat and the acceleration as we take off. I love seeing the familiar and unfamiliar landscapes spread out like maps below me.

First flight, here's what I remember: I was 4, my sister 1-1/2. Being trussed up in our best clothes (fancy dresses, stiff petticoats, patent leather mary janes) and lectured about how we'd better behave, dammit. Passing through a large hangar-like building and crossing the tarmac and up the stair-on-wheels to board the plane. Jr. Hostess wings from the stewardesses (back then they were all female) and going up front to meet the pilots and see the cockpit. Chewing gum to make our ears pop. A hot meal with silverware (at that point the most elegant meal I'd had in my young life). Looking out the windows and playing with the shades. Saying "wheee!" when we hit turbulence. Using the (then) space-age potty. Landing in Chicago, sleepy. Light fixture on the ceiling at Midway airport looked like stars. Boarding the plane for Wheeling, having to walk uphill from the back of the plane to our seats. Little cloth curtains on the windows, and the wings had propellers. Waking up as we landed.

Another flight I'll never forget involved propellers as well. When I was 16, my mother, my sister and I had flown with another family to Vancouver, and were connecting to Victoria. My mother was a nervous flyer and hated smaller planes and propellers especially. When we got to the boarding area and she saw that our connecting flight involved both, she headed to the nearest bar and started drinking. By the time we took off, she was already at twenty thousand feet. It was a beautiful flight that stayed fairly low and we flew over pretty green islands, some with sheep on the hills. On landing, which was a little bumpy but nothing out of the ordinary, our mother threw her head into her lap and started screaming "we're going to DIE! We're going to DIE!" (Oh, and during the flight she'd burned a hole in her dress with her cigarette.) The whole cabin of twenty or so people cracked up but we pretended we didn't know her until we got into our rental car.

Then, for a lot of years, I didn't fly at all. When I did start flying again, it was a new era, no longer special or elegant. People in sweats pushed and shoved to board, the seats were sometimes covered in crumbs or stuffed with trash from the last occupant, the flight attendants were surly. It had become Greyhound with wings.

If you're reading this on Monday, I am probably somewhere between home and the airport, or waiting to board my flight, or 32,000 feet over Missouri, or landing in New York. But there's another flight I plan to take sometime in the few months, and it doesn't involve crowds or even pressurized cabins:I had planned to take a ride in an open cockpit bi-plane for my 50th birthday, but then we went to Paris instead. I had hip surgery a few weeks before my 51st birthday. But I'm not going to wait for another birthday to pass before I have this adventure. The ironic part is that mon mari hates flying, and so I'll probably have to take my son up with me. He shares my love of the wild blue yonder.

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Tony Tixier/Anne Paceo/Joan Eche Puig/ Michael Valeanu

Last May when we were in Paris, we saw Anne Paceo perform as part of a trio opening for Ben Sidran/Georgie Fame. If you are in Paris, like jazz and have a chance to see her perform, don't miss it. She's a phenomenal percussionist!

Friday, May 9, 2008

Another reason why...

...it pays to buy good shoes. Bought these Ecco's over a year ago, and just had them "refurbished" by my local shoe repair guy for $30. They look better than new and now I'll get another year or two's wear (or maybe more!) out of a favorite pair. Good shoe repair people are worth their weight in gold, IMHO.

Thursday, May 8, 2008

Foulard de la semaine

This is a smaller (70cm x 70cm) silk square. Fold diagonally into an oblong shape, then tie a knot in the center, and one on either side of that one. Tie the ends in the back.

Six and the City

(Title and pic in honor of my upcoming trip to NY next week)

It's a meme-tastic week here chez femme!

Tagged this time by Always In Style. Theme is Six Unremarkable Quirks.
So here are mine:
1. I'm a map freak. I'm fascinated by maps and can look at them for hours. This also makes me an excellent navigator.
2. I can't sleep in a room with strong food or animal smells.
3. I hate coconut. The texture makes me gag.
4. As a young child, I used to pull all the fur off my stuffed animals, as sort of a nervous reflex. My son does the same thing.
5. I never go anywhere without hand lotion and lip balm.
6. I can't stand cold air blowing on me, no matter how warm it is otherwise.


If you are listed on my blogroll and have not been tagged the for the last two memes, consider yourself tagged!

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

An Expensive Little Habit

This is really neat! I love the wonderful pictures of her grandmother.

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

Meme: More Factoids About Moi

Tagged by Shefaly at La Vie Quotidienne:

1. Last movie you saw in a theater?
"Miss Pettigrew Lives For A Day"

2. What book are you reading?
The Good Husband of Zebra Drive by Alexander McCall Smith, also just started Père Goriot by Honoré de Balzac.

3. Favorite board game?
Backgammon

4. Favorite magazine?
The New Yorker.

5. Favorite smells?
Coffee, Rose, Lavender, Sandalwood, Amber, leather, alfalfa hay, manure-and-pine-shavings, redwood trees, wet pavement after a rain.

6. Favorite sounds?
Horses munching hay in a barn, red-winged blackbird calls, drumming, music (all kinds).

7. Worst feeling in the world?
Nausea

8. What is the first thing you think of when you wake up?
Coffee.

9. Favorite fast food place?
Taco Bell

10. Future child’s name?
None, I'm done procreating.

11. Finish this statement. “If I had lot of money I’d….?
Buy a horse.

12. Do you sleep with a stuffed animal?
No.

13. Storms - cool or scary?
Cool, until you see the funnel cloud.

14. Favorite drink?
Did you actually think I'd say something other than coffee? ;-)

15. Finish this statement, “If I had the time I would….”?
Travel and read more books.

16. Do you eat the stems on broccoli?
If cooked, yes. If raw, no.

17. If you could dye your hair any color, what would be your choice?
The same color as currently, red.

18. Name all the different cities/towns you’ve lived in?
Palo Alto, Los Altos, Dayton, OH, San Luis Obispo, San Jose (Costa Rica), Princeton, NJ, Woodside, Sunnyvale, Arroyo Grande (means Big Ditch in Spanish!), Los Angeles, Culver City

19. Favorite sports to watch?
Equestrian events, American football

20. One nice thing about the person who sent this to you?
She is quite intelligent.

21. What’s under your bed?
Storage boxes with our ski clothes.


22. Would you like to be born as yourself again?
Yes. But with better hair.

23. Morning person, or night owl?
Morning person.

24. Over easy, or sunny side up?
Over easy.

25. Favorite place to relax?
Outdoors on a patio overlooking a lake.

26. Favorite pie?
Key Lime.

27. Favorite ice cream flavor?
Moose Tracks.

28. Of all the people you tagged this to, who’s most likely to respond first?
Probably materfamilias.


Monday, May 5, 2008

Care and Feeding

In my 20's, I had a close friend who was heavily invested in her appearance, especially with regard to maintaining a very toned, thin body. She made no bones (no pun intended) about the fact that this was the most important thing in her life. People were always commenting on her slender figure and asking how she kept it. "I take care of myself," she'd sniff just a bit haughtily. Her version of taking care of herself demanded unswerving and relentless rigidity regardless of circumstance: eating less than 1000 calories per day, usually two but sometimes three daily aerobics classes, and eventually, abuse of laxatives. (Do I have to admit that my younger, eating-disordered self envied her for her thinness and for what I perceived at the time as strength and discipline, only understanding in later years that it sprung from self-hatred and obsession?) We started drifting apart after I started finding my way out of ED-ville, and began moving away from our shared worldview.

So a lot of years passed where hearing the words "I take care of myself" made une femme bristle a bit. It always fell on my ears sounding a bit self-righteous and disingenuous at the same time. I've seen a lot of people do a lot of ultimately self-destructive things in the name of "taking care of themselves" which to many always seems to equate to "staying thin and young-looking." And I've seen some naturally very thin people with really crappy habits get a pass, and get credited with good self-care when it's really mostly Doritos and genetics.

But to be able to live a stylish, adventurous, balanced, delicious life after 50, more and more attention to self care is required. So what does that look like? And how does one separate what really nurtures and energizes from what is intended to achieve a specific culturally-approved look? I've come to realize that this is a highly individual formula, and that it must shift with time and circumstances. Taking care of myself in my 20's meant (among other things) running three miles a few times a week, because it made me feel wonderful and gave me lots of energy, but that same regimen would be murder on my joints today. (I miss running, I really do.)

Self-care at this point in time involves the following (in no particular order):
  • A bit of protein with every meal, and fresh fruits and veggies as often as possible.

  • Limiting sugary foods to immediately after meals (prevents blood sugar crashes)

  • Walking as much as possible, and once I'm cleared by the orthopedist, riding my recumbent stationary bike a few times a week

  • Regular dental care (more and more evidence that gum disease is a factor in a host of other serious conditions, such as heart disease!) Flossing daily in addition to brushing.

  • Regular medical checkups

  • Remembering to take my thyroid med every morning

  • Sleep (getting 8 hours is a challenge at times, but I try)

  • Wearing clothing that fits my body NOW, not when I'm five pounds thinner

  • Wearing a seatbelt (it's the law here, but still)

  • Down time where no one is making demands on me (I get up an hour before the rest of my family to achieve this)

  • SUNSCREEN. Every day. 40+ SPF.

  • Writing for this blog.

  • Doing some stretches daily, again once the orthopedist signs off (I'm restricted from certain movements until my bones have fused to my artificial hip)

  • Vitamin, calcium, and fish oil tablets daily

  • A bit of dark chocolate daily, and a glass of wine a few times a week.

  • A good laugh at my own expense at least once a day. ("I used to be disgusted/But now I'm just amused.")

While this may sound like an exhaustive (and perhaps exhausting!) list, the truth is that I've been able to incorporate most of these into my daily routines and they now are mostly habit. Although no one would probably ever point to me as a picture of glowing fitness, the rest of my life doesn't have to wind and twist like a topiary around what I do in the name of health. Because really, how "healthy" would that be?

Saturday, May 3, 2008

Weekend Update

I've been tagged by La Vie Quotienne and Always In Style for memes, and I will get to those shortly, I promise.

Of the jackets I perused for spring/summer and an upcoming business trip, this one was the winner:
The Ann Taylor jacket is nice too, but it has a lot of silvery threads running through it so it's more of a standout piece.

A couple of commenters in the Poaching thread mentioned adding vinegar to the water. I was certain there was probably a reason for this, and so tried it. It makes the egg white cook up more solidly and cohesively, so I've now replaced the salt with vinegar in my egg poaching process.

Friday, May 2, 2008

Foodie Friday

Just a note, if you haven't tried any of this season's strawberries or artichokes yet, you're missing out! Both are the best they've been in years. Even the artichokes I bought last weekend at Trader Joe's which were as big as my head cooked up beautifully and were tender and flavorful.


When I first moved to LA, one of the high points was living near a Trader Joe's. If you've never been to one, it's like a gourmet grocery with very low prices on many items. They have a lot of organic foods and environmentally friendly products, and a great wine department featuring inexpensive to mid-priced wines. My son is hooked on their canned chicken chili with beans, and I'm hooked on the "Just a Handful" almonds, both raw and roasted that are packaged in single-serving portions. Another winner is the frozen Frenched rack of lamb, which is a thaw, cook and serve dinner, along with a salad of their house brand baby greens. If you're looking for fresh flowers and herbs they have some of the best around and again at the best prices. During the grocery strike a couple years ago, I shopped almost exclusively at TJ's, and we never ate better. Convenience is now the only reason I shop anywhere else; my nearest supermarket also has a branch of my bank and a pharmacy where we have most of our prescriptions, but I make a point to get to TJ's every week or two to stock up on our favorites.

Thursday, May 1, 2008

Foulard de la semaine

Happy May Day! Back in my Morris Dancing days I would have been lacing up my bells about now to dance the sun up per Morris tradition. But today I'm celebrating this dawn more sedately, with a double espresso and a glance at my favorite blogs.


On to this week's foulard: yes, it's the truly gorgeous "Billets-Doux" scarf by Ashley Ashoff, which I first admired a couple weeks ago. Despite my protestations about being over budget for clothing purchases this month, I succumbed to the lure of its pure blue color and words of love. It arrived late last week, but we were having quite the heat wave, and yesterday was the first day it was cool enough to wear it.


I first tried it on tied loosely like a man's tie.
But the fabric is so fluid and drapes so nicely, and the pattern so pretty, I decided to show it off to better advantage: This is another variation on the "bib" with that the ends left hanging loose in front. You can also secure by running both ends through a scarf ring in the back if you don't want to have to continually readjust.